There are definite differences in scenarios here. It's very different when a spouse moves out and leaves the left behind hanging, living separately, but not willing to go the extra mile to file for divorce, that in itself can only breed some hope. In this case, you're so busy changing for the other person, that the changing for GAL isn't even given a thought.
Maybe it should be very different for a marriage that was wrought with conflict and a spouse that makes no bones about the fact that the only resolution for them is divorce, and actually files. That in itself should send the message loud and clear. Obviously even there some LBS don't "get it". Heck, years go by and some of them still don't get it.
