She would not get to decide when I see the kids ultimately. There are laws in my state that pretty much automatically award 50/50 placement to good parents, which I am. Also it is still my home as I am paying for it, I do not see why I should not be able to come into it when I want.
I am not moving everything, but I am indeed staying someplace else. I would still see my kids during the day/evening but sleeping someplace else. Also as much as she has not been coming home at nights I think that I am doing more to keep the kids lives stable than she is.
You sound much like she does right now. I can treat you like crap and however I feel like it but it is your JOB to stay and keep the kids happy. I want you to understand that I have taken not a year of this, but several. Several affiars that I know of and several others that I suspect. I don't think I am the one with the misguided heart in this relationship.
I see that sounded like an attack on you and I did not mean it in that manner.
JWs-
You have just stated my ultimate fear. The kids know there is something wrong between my wife and I. The oldest will not even talk to me anymore and the youngest is regressing in his habits. I do not want my kids to get the impression that totally disregarding you mate is OK. My wife, for whatever reasons, has NO respect for me and that is not right for my kids to think is OK.
Not to mention we don't do anythings that a normal family would do because of the fact that my wife and I don't get along. They never see us hug, they never see us kiss etc etc. I think affection should be promoted not hidden.
I don't want to look back when I am 55 and realize that there are so many better choices I could have made with my life and then start to feel bitter towards all the people I love.
