"I followed the links back in time and read up on your situation from the beginning up to the current stuff."
Wow, you actually read my entire history? I'm impressed. But then again, you are an engineer and are used to being thorough.
"One of the reasons I don't post to others more often is that I often feel that I don't have much to contribute or suggest. I'm a man, and an engineer to boot, so I want to problem solve."
1. Just your very presence and support is a welcomed contribution. 2. That you are a man is important because you can contribute a man's point of view and give balance to the conversation. 3. That you are an engineer and used to analysis and problem solving is an asset added to the mix.
"what seemed to work well for you in the past was loving detachment (but combined with still being very available, physically)."
