"You mentioned that h. has spoken candidly with his sister...are you assuming that he's also discussed your m. sitch with these friends? "
I know that my H confides in his buddy of many years, so yes, I'm quite sure of it. That in itself I can understand, what I can't understand is how this couple could think that it was okay for them to invite only him and GUEST when they know full well that we are still married and living together. Was my H's case against this M so compelling that they had no other choice? Or are they just being insensitive. Maybe a little of both?
"if it is a byproduct of a conversation he had with them, well, he'll see the hurt he's caused w/o any mention from you."
Good question. Will he SEE the hurt he's caused me? I want to hide my sadness from him as much as possible now, my sadness is one of the things that makes him uncomfortable around me. Is it possible for him to know that this is another spike in my chest if I'm carrying on "as if" and don't mention it. Or is there a time and a way to present it to him without causing a backlash.
I'm open to your suggestion.
Perhaps I can at least give him time to bring up the invitation and see what he has to say first.
Gads, I don't know.
I do know though, that I'm not going to do anything that can be interpreted as jumping all over him.
"just thinking that sometimes when you don't know what to do...doing nothing directly involved in the sitch may be the right course." do you know what I mean?
