I really appreciate your kind words for me on my thread. I thought I'd come over and check out yours. I followed the links back in time and read up on your situation from the beginning up to the current stuff. It's amazing to me that even while going through such tough times you are able to offer so many others so much support.
One of the reasons I don't post to others more often is that I often feel that I don't have much to contribute or suggest. I'm a man, and an engineer to boot, so I want to problem solve. Only our problems are not so easily defined, let alone solved, are they?
One suggestion I do have is to go back and reread your posts. After all, that's one of the main reasons we do this - to record for ourselves what worked and what didn't, what emotions and feelings were valid, and which ones turned out not to be, and to record the changes in ourselves and our S's. As I read your thread, what seemed to work well for you in the past was loving detachment (but combined with still being very available, physically).
My heart goes out to you, to have to deal with what might seem like a big relapse (or whatever it is your H is experiencing). I do find it very interesting and very encouraging that he is so attracted to you sexually. That's a powerful connection. Also, the fact that he wants to start over seems very hopeful, obviously.
