Jeannine -- You mentioned that h. has spoken candidly with his sister...are you assuming that he's also discussed your m. sitch with these friends?
Even so, I find it bizarre that they would send an invite that way as some sort of message...cripes ... why not just address it to him? weird. It's actually SO weird that I'm wondering if you're not reading into the sitch...is that possible?
Hon, I don't think it's time to throw in the towel -- heck, both you and h. are currently USING the towel to dry off, refresh, rebound from your conversation of the other night...that's ok, too.
Can you let the invitation go? Not bring it up? That would be my recommendation. When he sees it, if it is a byproduct of a conversation he had with them, well, he'll see the hurt he's caused w/o any mention from you.
Just my two simple cents but is it possible for you to just regroup right now? Take care of yourself? Go to a movie, sit out in the sun, have a pedicure? I'm NOT trying to trivialize the crappiness of what you are going through right this minute...just thinking that sometimes when you don't know what to do...doing nothing directly involved in the sitch may be the right course. There's time for the R. talk another day...
do you know what I mean?
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
