Drowning still - 23 years, feel like I am sinking

[steve477]

Hi CBK,

Sorry I havent been here with you.

Alot has happened in a weekend, took me 2 days to catch up.

You read my sitch, can you see the similarities?? W becomes distant, W wants to be `just friends` with you, W cant look you in the eye... etc...

Its going to be OK.

Dont worry about the snooping, we all do it. I still do it now and again (I am not mentioning this on my thread as I will get a roasting! lol)
Dont worry about the OM. Your rational side has to realise that you cannot force you W away from him! You can only draw your W back to you. You have seem on my thread things have really perked up recently, but OM is still about. Got to let it go.

I know you probably spent too much time thinking about OM and A. I did too, still crosses my mind now. But dont do anything about it. Dont expose, dont set boundries, I think you are like me, in that you are not strong enought to stick to your guns yet. DOnt try and find OM. I actually told my W over the weekend, that ever cell in my body wants to rip OMs head off. (strange to tell her that hey!) BUT my head belongs to her, and I would never go to him for revenge, as I know she doesnt want me too. Same that she wouldnt want me to fight with anyone really. If the time comes that OM hurts her, or she decides he is a `bar-steward`, then gives me `permission` to go, then that would be great. I want to do as an act of protecting my family, not protecting my pride.

You will get there.
If you think the timing is right then press certain things, in a joke at first.... `you havent looked at me all night? Do I have a zit or something?`

Timing is everthing. Do you have things that you wish you hadnt done or had waited to do? Of course. So just be calm and patient.

Oh and the WWJBD? You are thinking about it in a way that implies JB REALLY wants the girl. Think in a way that implies indifference.... let it go and move on. (the moment, not your W!!)

I am going on holiday until next Monday. I will check before I go. I want you to promise you will not do anything drastic in the meantime!!!!!! Just do nothing is best if it gets too much.

Oh and Sandi? Means alot to hear you call me `your boy`! Glad I could make it this far, wouldnt have without you!

Cheers

Steve