Jeannine, Thanks for posting to my new thread - very nice to feel welcome over here in piecing. It seems like a different level of support and insight and your thread is so poetic! Are you a writer? Your H reminds me of mine about a year ago- horrible nights of me laying in the garage so he wouldnt leave in the middle of the argument as he always did. Making up after exhausting discussions that only seem to strengthen the negative. I suggest these discussions kept to a minimum- later on they are only a source of painful memories. I think you need to give him space and dont drive him out by pressuring him. Accept him for now- smile have sex, touch alot, dont quiz him. If he talks, nod and listen. He is probably mourning the loss of OW but that is normal and way better than keeping her around. Let him get through that. My H goes to his sister too who is really open minded and accepting of this stuff- he will get sick of that. My H's work was "off limits" too. So this is a huge step and declares you as his wife- dont under estimate that as a huge step forward. I am still not there on that front but getting close. Anyway, I know exactly where you are. I have lived it for 2 years. Not going anywhere because he will try to see her. You cant control that. Take care of you and make it somewhere safe to be - with you. Have a great night and come up with a plan for what to do tonight to keep busy and be thoughtful. NO pressure!!! LOL Shay
