You are losing your Martyr Mommy status by doing things for yourself. I still haven't gone to see a movie by myself.. yet! I am reading "NOT 'Just Friends'" though.
I am trying to convince SallyM to come visit me and go to the movie. I can't wait to see it!
Gypsy, The movie by yourself thing. It took me awhile to do it, but its really ok. I go a bit early to pick a decent 'loner' seat, but bring a book/magazine. I am usually not the only one there alone. Do it!!! Go see something lighthearted, or something H would hate to see.
Not Just Friends is a super tough read, but very insightful. Hope you get something out of it. I stopped reading when I got to the reconciling part.
The day went well. Pizza Day with D6, fun with D3, who was the ringmaster during "Circus Day" at school today. She came out of school with her hat and horn yelling "Happy Tuesday Mom!" Sigh...love those babies.
H is on Week #4 of showing up on time so I can go to work and getting the girls where they need to be at night. We are peaceful. Limbo-peaceful, but peaceful nonetheless.
I am sure that is going to be a hard one. Last year even though we were seperated my H took me to a nice restaurant for our anniversary. Go figure! Ours would/will be 19 on May 27th. I'll be watching on the 1st and I'm here if you want to chat. kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
lwb, just concentrate on those blessings of the marriage (the girls). that is what really helped me get thru my 10 year in october. and let that river flow. don't try to stop it...just recognize and accept what is hard for you that day, but don't drown in it.
as for the movies-on-you-own, I love it! I do it from time to time. never had a problem with it, maybe because in HS I worked at a theatre for a while. who knows. one of my sisters worked at the same theatre and goes alone occasionally, while my other sister and my mom would never, ever, ever go on their own. to each their own.
don't get me wrong, I love going with friends, too, but sometimes its nice to just be by yourself, to do what you want without taking anyone else's thoughts (or snack choices! lol) into consideration.
lwb, am thinking of you this week. and trust me, if the rates get good enough, I'll be there. worse comes to worse, we'll do a virtual movie date.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
This is for everybody, I'm just putting it on LWB's thread. I was shocked by an email I got today from my former real estate broker. I say former because she sold the business 4 months ago and just became one of the agents after that.
She and her husband went to Texas because the husband's father is dying of cancer. So now she is there and planning the funeral, etc, and she writes to us all that she is not coming back to Florida. She and the husband have decided to stay in Texas and start a new life.
Why do I find that so shocking? I just can't believe that she could leave behind her entire life, her several houses (she invested in real estate), her son who is 28 and is in a halfway house in Florida after being convicted of drunk driving.
Does anyone else think this is weird? Or do people do that....spend 10 years building a life somewhere and then one day chuck it and go somewhere else with nothing more than a goodbye note.
I know what you will say.....I'm asking the wrong people. You all had it done to you. She is at least staying with her husband. I don't know. I live in a world where I expect more permanance.
