God believes I'm worth it...

[cat03]

lmao OT, wish I could do that

[Committed2Him]

Love the words- looked it up in itunes but there are different songs with that name. Do you know who sings the version you are thinking of?

I have a couple of CD's that got me through my first separation back in '99. My time with the Lord then was so precious and the music I listened to then has such a special place in my heart even now. He was faithful then and He is faithful now!

[Committed2Him]

Trade him his dignity for the DVD's, ooops to late for that one too!

[cat03]

Song by Yolanda Adams

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lol, yes, too late for that, he's made a major arse of himself for the past months, his horrible lies all came to light, he did a great job pitting ow against me and vice versa (little did he know that one day she and I would exchange notes, that was his biggest fear, and boy did he lie his mouth off to both of us!)

[oldtimer]

Seriously, what can you let go of so he'll let go of the shed.

Just say no to the shed. Please.

[cat03]

There is nothing available to let of OT, I didnt' want to give him a 3rd morning with the kids nor give him one of the kids to claim, but I did, and yet he accused me during a hissy fit that I've "fought him every inch of the way".

He has way too much crap (honestly, nothing he is storing there is of any value, mostly props from his various plays he did for s9's bdays, workout stuff and various junk he won't toss). Either at ow's or at his friends, wherever he is staying he's prob junked the place already, he's very messy and unorganized, so he has no space whatsoever (no, not excusing him, just explaining why he is fighting so much to keep his stuff in the shed). There are still 2 rooms in our home he's junked up and stuff he needs to get out of there. Not my problem any more, I know, my family would prob put the whole thing on the curb on trash day if I tell them how much grief he's giving me because of it, they are hot heads like m, they'd be so po'd.

My family was wonderful again, like a one man army they came to my home yesterday: dad cut the overgrown bushes stbx refused to trim, sister cleaned my porch stbx filled with junk, brother and bil fixed my 2 bathroom sinks one of which stbx broke, sil painted the mural wall. And the two babies filled me with so much joy with their toothless laugh, it was wonderful to have them.

[Committed2Him]

ok, checking it out. By the way, one of those CD's was WOW gospel 1998, and Yolanda Adams sung a song that was very, very dear to me:
The Battle is the Lord's (Live)

I remember singing that song, sometimes literally in tears, laying on the floor. As I now play the video, or listen to the song on my ipod, I hear it from a vantage point of having seen Him fulfill his promises, even though the divorce eventually took place. He sustained me, used the trial to encourage others, grew me in my faith, lifted my head when I had no strength or desire, brought people into my life just when I needed them and page after page after page in my journals of what the Lord did in my life.

Cat,

You are doing well for being at this point, with everything still going on. There will be challenges and hurt to grow through but His promises to sustain you are eternal promises and it is impossible for God to lie.

[cat03]

thanks C2H, I'm almost done with the umpleasatries of the SA. I believe God uses people to get through us, I firmly believe he used many of my DB friends to lift me up and hear what i needed to hear.

Had another talk with stbx, about the shed. SIGH

He wont' budge one year short of 5yrs, it's his name on the title he says and until i pay him all i owe he has the right to put stuff there. He started getting sarcastic and loud, not at all like when we were talking at the beginning of the legal S.
Of course he ended telling me "just go get a f*cking L since you've changed your mind on EVERYthing, we'll have to go over every single thing again, since you won't agree to me putting stuff in my own house then we'll just sell the house and let the judge decide". I know half of it is bluf and half of it is stupidity since he's up to his neck in debt and couldnt' afford a L and he doesnt' think how much in debt both of us can end up, i told him based on the A and other factors he'd end up much worse than me & might even had to pay my L fees. He said I"d end up in debt too and that no way they'll make him pay my L's fees.

The man has truly lost his mind, he isnt' even rational. i kept my cool the entire time, letting him know that i just wanted him to meet me halfway somehow, but nope, i was accused of being vindictive, bitter and trying to make his life hell.

I had it, he's a ticking bomb, i'm just going to tell him he can store his stuff there for the 5yrs as long as it's put on the SA that he can't put anything of value there and i"m not liable for damage or theft and that he's only able to go there 1x a month instead of 2x. So far he's said no to every one of my suggestions and telling me we'll just go through Ls, it's that big of a deal for him to have that shed all that time, and he's stupid enough to drag me to court just for that, even as the SA is 99% done and I'm just done paying my 2 L's visits and the mediator's fee, he will do it, he is down and won't mind dragging me down too. THere is no other way folks, he is insane, and chances are, in 2-3yrs there won't be anything left up there that the rats/moths haven't eaten, he will plum forget about anything he puts up there and prob wont 'even show up every month. I can't reason bargain nor talk any sense into him about meeting me half way, I want out of his lunacy and finalizing the SA will bring me peace once and for all about the legal stuff.

[oldtimer]

(1) I really hope you do NOT let STBX store his stuff at your house and have you be liable for it.

(2) You are concerned about paying off STBX with a bank loan because he may lose his job/go bankrupt, etc, etc... What are the legal implications if his name is still on your house and the bill collectors come? Can they take your house since it sounds like you've decided it will still be his house for at least 5 years?

The more ties you have to STBX the less peace you will have in your future. No, it does not end once you sign the SA. You are tallking about stuff you have to live with for years and years.

[Committed2Him]

Cat,

I went through the same thing, I worked it out with X and then at one point she became irate and threatened lawyers etc. I did consult with an attorney but then I gave her what she wanted because I just wanted to be done and I was hoping for reconciliation. Even though my motives were right and not getting an attorney cost me money in the long run, it was the best route for the kids sake. Also, tremendous things have happened in my Christian walk becsuase of my decision to avoid the attorney.

Anything I lost, God will replace if not here, then in the eternal realm.

Like you said, you already know his pattern re the shed. Once a month, twice, in time, it really won't matter down the road.

Again, I'm praying for godly wisdom for you.