Hi Sweetie, just wanted to pop in and tell you I haven't forgotten about you. Just kind of got tied up with some other folks on their threads.
Piecing is hard....that's a fact, but you are much further that you were. If W isn't ready to talk R....try to let it ride. I can understand her side, but it is hard to explain to the H. Just continue to try to be patient about that. I can also understand why she just wants to act as if the OM never happened. I think she just wants to move on and try to forget it b/c everytime she talks about him.....he becomes real again and it's like she relieves the A. She doesn't want to think about it. So, if there is any way you can just try to do this thing from a brand new start with a "beginner's mind"......that may be your best route. She still has her bad moments and this may last for a while. Remember.....it's a process.
If you have a need to still talk about the A and OM......do it here or with a C, but if she is avoiding it, you don't need to push her about it. Still use all the DB principles.......especially in "piecing". You have come so far and I am so proud of you! You two are going to make it, but you will never reach a point that you won't need to "work" at the MR.....if you want a good one.
Try to keep things from becoming routine or boring for her. That is not good.
It is so late and I have to get up so early and I don't know what I'm doing trying to even send a post when I'm this tired, but wanted to check in on you.
Take care sweetie pie.
Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
