Moving the dictionary may have irked him because it says that you haven't accepted his word that it's over. I know that upsets my H to no end. I find I still have to stifle alot of opinions and requests to rebuild trust, but it seems like it is slowly coming. Give him some time and some patience. You can't make him want to be home - he has to realize he wants it as well. OW will never "disappear" completely, so you both will have to figure out how to put her in the past.
