While I can TOTALLY identify with an irrational angry H, with spew directed in the wrong direction, SuperDad is totally right. I have learned to let H's crazy moods no longer affect me. The benefit of this is my newfound patience, and I am setting a good example for the girls.
In the past, I would scramble, tap dance, beg, cheat and steal to get H in a better mood. Post bomb, I would act with anger and bitterness. Neither works.
A balanced attitude is the only way. Let H's moods wash off you. Call out the blatant rude remarks ("That wasn't called for", then moving on).
Chant "I will be fine with or without H. I will be happy. I will be secure". You get it.
And yes, H sees the backslides 100 times more than the DB'ing. That being said, you aren't perfect, neither is anyone. Wake up tomorrow and try again. HUGS
