Is he saying that he's moving back home (to your house) today???
I think that is what he was saying and strangely enough he orignally said that I need 1 or 2 weeks to clear my head, and tonight is 2 weeks from the night he left. I wonder if he did any head clearing at all or just got to have a 2 week vacation at his friend's house with a buddy to watch hockey every night while his wife had a broken heart over the daughter that finally was realizing she lost her daddy.
A lot has happened in the last week with his parents exposing his A to his friend who is also the landlord of OW's house, with him finally going to speak to his parents after avioding them for 2 weeks because he didn't want them going around telling everyone in town trying to call him out. With 2 of his close friends approaching him even though briefly, one coming to his work and the other in the voice mail the other night to tell him he was ruining his life. Honestly I have no idea where his head is at. And I haven't asked, I think the fact that I haven't been asking is why he is coming home. The previous Sunday as he stomped out after we started fighting again, he claimed that he had his bags in the car to come home.
I did tell him on Thursday about getting trapped in the bathroom and forced to listen to that song and that it made me realize that on top of what I am focused on the proof that there is no longer an A and him coming home I realized that he will have to work to have me ever trust him again and even more importantly to make me feel that I am special to him, and maybe he should consider those 2 things before he decides to come home.
Last edited by neecy22; 04/28/0808:24 PM.
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
I realized that he will have to work to have me ever trust him again and even more importantly to make me feel that I am special to him, and maybe he should consider those 2 things before he decides to come home.
Maybe??? I believe he DOES need to understand this.
What ACTIONS will H have to take to SHOW you that he is trying to regain your trust as well as making you feel special to him again? How will you relay this information to him while setting your boundaries? What will you say?
What will the consequences be if he cannot respect your limits? More importantly, can you live with the boundaries you set forth and see them through? Just as your H must, YOU must also be able to back up your words with action.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
Well he is not here, he is watching D tomorrow morning, claimed he fell right asleep when he got "home" last night so didn't pack up his things. I told him if you are not ready to come home yet don't, he said I didn;t say that I just need to pack up my stuff. Who cares about the people you are stringing along...?
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
I told him if you are not ready to come home yet don't, he said I didn;t say that I just need to pack up my stuff.
Hmmmm......Didn't someone I know once say to me, "Is there any reason why he just can't pack an overnight bag with a toothbrush and a change of clothes? He can always get the rest of his things later," or something very similar? Who was that lady?
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
Hmmmm......Didn't someone I know once say to me, "Is there any reason why he just can't pack an overnight bag with a toothbrush and a change of clothes? He can always get the rest of his things later," or something very similar? Who was that lady?
Exactly and in fact I said the same thing to him. I don't like games. We will be having a more serious discussion about this when I get home from work tonight, there was no point in doing it by text.
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
I won on the radio again this morning! The best prize yet! Now I hope this doesn't cahnge anyone's impression of me but I won WWE wrestling tickets for a live event this weekend! I love wrestling - although I haven't watched as much recently. I must be the only one that listens to the radio station that does because I was 3 of the 4 callers to call in and guess at the "Giant Percentage" They had also said I won a 2 month pass to a martial arts studio - and while I was waiting for them to take my info I was thinking that this would be a pretty cool GAL activity. Then he said he made a mistake, my name was in a draw to win that.
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
Congratulations, Neecy! That doesn't change my impression of you at all. I admit to enjoying watching cage wrestling with my H when he watches it. It's fun! I was thinking if you don't win the draw (hopefully you will) then you could still look into martial arts on your own--that is a really cool idea!!! Karen
Yay for you, Neecy! I'm sure you'll have a blast this weekend!
Btw, I'm not into the WWE, but I am a big fan of the UFC.
I also think learning martial arts would be a fantastic way to GAL! Plus, you'd have the added benefit of being able to kick your H's butt if he ever gets out of line with you again! J/k
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
I believe he DOES need to understand this.
Who was that lady? 
Karen