When we were once very close to coming to an agreement with the D terms, he wanted me to agree to a flat sum of child and spousal support and never ask for more. Going with the advice of a L he consulted (and he later said he didn't agree with this because he felt it was too much but did it anyway to see what I would say), he wanted me to agree to $3000 a month.....even though there are months when he earns over $10000, take home. He said, "Many people can live off of $3000 every month."....Very true.....So tell you what, H.....How about you keep the $3K and the boys and I will take the $7K? Never said that to him, but sometimes I wish I had.
If this does indeed end in D, I will not short change my children, or myself, because he feels it isn't fair to him. The kids and I have earned every bit. I will not allow him to make me feel bad for getting what we deserve.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
Never said that to him, but sometimes I wish I had. 
