Why are you allowing your H to bully you into going with him? I understand that you want to make things as easy as you can for your D4, but wasn't the last time you spent with BIL, SIL and the cousins a nightmare? Didn't he get so drunk that he laid on D4? He has no more right to make decisions concerning her than you do. What if you wanted to take her to spend the weekend with your Mom and Dad? Is he going to be sensitive to your desires over the weekend? If you need a ride to see a friend, will he blow it off again, or make sure you get the opportunity?
It really, really bothers me to hear you saying "he refused me to take D4 with me" and "I felt threatened". Why are you allowing him to control and threaten you? I think by now, worse case scenario, you have enough documented to prove that he's an unfit parent if you needed to. This is the man who can't manage to pay her daycare, and looking for flights to go have a good time for the weekend? On top of that he's is manipulating you to go along to save face and make it easier for him. Ick.
I agree... it's time to start thinking of protecting your rights, especially as a mother. If you allow him to use D4 as a pawn in his sick game now, it'll only continue. What's he going to do when you start living apart? I'd be very wary of sending a message that he can use your daughter to gain control and get his way. It won't make a very good life for you or for her.
Hugggggs. I hope I wasn't too harsh, but dangit! it bothers me to see you allowing him to continue treating you and D4 like crap. You are WAY too precious to be treated this way. You deserve to have a break from it, especially on Mother's day.
