I realized that he will have to work to have me ever trust him again and even more importantly to make me feel that I am special to him, and maybe he should consider those 2 things before he decides to come home.
Maybe??? I believe he DOES need to understand this.
What ACTIONS will H have to take to SHOW you that he is trying to regain your trust as well as making you feel special to him again? How will you relay this information to him while setting your boundaries? What will you say?
What will the consequences be if he cannot respect your limits? More importantly, can you live with the boundaries you set forth and see them through? Just as your H must, YOU must also be able to back up your words with action.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
I believe he DOES need to understand this.
