Hi, Finally found your post. Thanks for helping me. I have a couple of suggestions for you. Read "Love Must be Tough" by James Dobson and the journaling is good only if you are going to litigate. I did it and it made it worse. The worse thing I did was hire a PI. She felt very justified in snooping in my office and reading my therapist notes since I had hired a PI. I would rec that you keep some venting notes and therapist notes to make the most out of your therapy sessions. I have had so many people tell me my W is mentally ill based on her actions and I believe she is bipolar. The gun thing is scary. Get rid of the gun period. Take it to your local sheriff's office. The chances of one of you coming to harm from the gun are much greater than any criminal busting in your house. I also would consider the aging parents issue when disposing of the gun. Good Luck
