Quote: Is your h unable to see how ill he is right now? I don't mean that judgementally -- more out of worry and concern. 2 (more?) threatened suicide attempts? This is out of hand. I hope that you are safe.
I can't speak on H's insight into his own illness. You are right in your concern for not only my safety, but his as well. I am going to a shrink tomorrow for myself, I hope that he will keep his appointment that is scheduled later in the month.
Quote: Here's what I'm wondering -- what if you just stopped trying? Really. Dropped the rope, they say. Spent all of your extra energy (after ALL of the commitments that you have... ) focusing on you -- getting you mentally and physically healthy, shoring you up, whatever it takes. Let him take care of YOU.
My mom and her H take up a lot of my time and energy, (this I'm afraid is unavoidable) but I am seriously looking at learning to belly dance. Yes, you heard me right. I've always been interest in different types of dance, but up till now, I have not explored this one. It could be a healty outlet I suppose. No one teaches it around here, but I am looking at instructional video's/DVD's.
Quote: well...michele talks about being able to DB while the op is still around....is it possible for you h. to switch jobs? (can't remember if he owns the business...) Why can't he fire her????
I wish! He is the supervisor of his department. It would be finacially disastrous for him to look for another lab to work for at this time, especially now that they have given him a raise. I don't think he would do it anyway.
As for firing her, he would have to have good cause, other than the fact that he is having an affair with her and it is causing trouble at home and sometimes creates stress in his department whenever they have a spat. He would be seen as the culpable one since he was the guy who hired her in the first place. Tricky situation. And as my counselor pointed out today, he could end up with a sexual harrassment suit if he's not careful. Gads! That's all we need now. Oh what a web we weave......
So for the time being, things look bleak. I will keep posting and try to keep to the DB path as best I can though. I just don't know how long I want to endure this way.
Guess I'm just having a bumpier ride than usual. Who knows, maybe something good will happen before too long. I'm just going to have to white knuckle it for now.
Thanks for your continuing support. It means a lot to me.
