We've been here a long time. This is without a doubt the biggest challenge we have ever faced.
Do not look at it as the ending, when things are just going to start beginning.
Life is to precious to waste being angry over the foolishness of another, this includes the stbx.
Make sure your financials are tip top!!!
Come back often.....
Actually Allison.....why even go? Now is going to be the time you need loving, understanding and groups support. We are all here.
Sometimes.....divorce is just the beginning of chaos
This board keeps us centered and focused Allison you need to stay centered and focused so please keep posting, venting or whatever it is you need to do.
{{{Hugs}}}
Jeanette
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Jeanette is so right on the money here Allison! We can all help while you go through this. You will become a stronger woman as well and will soon not have to think or worry about what H is doing since you will have lovingly detached from the craziness of it all.
YOU are NOT a failure in the least!! Don't even think that! Demand those negative thoughts to leave you immediately and only welcome kind and loving thoughts.
You've got to be kidding me!! You have not failed anything Allison, your husband failed YOU!! GOT IT!
Am I a failure? I've been divorced for 9 months and I am still battling it. I'm going back to court Allison because I am sick of his inability to comprehend DIVORCE.
I am not a failure. I am a survivor.
You are not a failure.....you are a survivor!
Do not ever EVER be ashamed for what you had to endure trying to save your marriage Allison. NEVER!
You step up to the plate now and be the best damn ALLISON EVER!!!
I am so sorry it came to this.....but DO NOT LET THAT MAN TAKE YOUR DIGNITY!
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Please read and re-read Jeanette's posts over and over. DO NOT give your H the satisfaction of you crumbling! You need to show the kids how great and wonderful and loving you are. Show them how a marriage should be worth fighting for and keep your chin up during this! You are not the failure. H should feel like one, but never you!
You have been seperated for a long time now Allison.
Time to pick up the pieces, stand up for your rights, have your children pay attention to YOUR NEEDS, have that xh of yours grow some balls and start being a parent!
Allison....listen honey, you've failed nothing. Yes, you will grieve this as you should. But it's been a long time honey....and now it's time for you.
Be sad....cry, get angry, but don't go away when you'll need our support the most.
Broadcast? Hell....you guys no more about my life than anyone and I mean ANYONE!
We won't hurt you. We will love, protect and guide you through this next step.
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That's the whole point I gave up the fight. Something I said I would never do. The pain just became too intense and I caved. that's not something worth celebrating.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
when it's all done and over you will feel better....thats the time when you will notice just how much this has affected you and you will slowly begin to change, to heal, to appreciate the things you once forgot.
broadcasting....not a word I would choose, more like telling your story of how hard you tried to save your marriage and the bs you put up with fighting the good fight.
If there were to be a celebration, it would be in your honor Allison....not your defeat but your victory for comeing full circle and being a stronger wiser woman.
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