If you read through all of the success stories on this board, they all have one thing in common, the LBS stopped worrying about what was going on and they acted "as if". One thing I want to point out to you is this: Our WAS acts this way, correct? They continue on with their life without thinking about our feelings or worrying about what is going to happen? We ALL want things we can't have. So why don't you become this person? The sooner you become this person, you put yourself in her shoes and then she MAY begin looking at things the way you are currently. There is no guarantee to any of this, but the sooner you turn the roles the sooner you will have some success or baby steps.
Anyway you could paraphase this?
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
