It's a fresh pain for you right now and Michele's techniques can often seem the opposite of our natural response to the situation. Totally understandable that you lost it the first weekend going through this! Don't worry, "DB-ing" will come easier to you with every opportunity you find, each day, to practice.
Detaching is a process and you learn to let go as you take the focus off everything your H is doing/not doing and put it on achieving the goals you've set for you and your D.
Meanwhile, Ready2Change came up with some great 180s the other day about learning how to text message. Did you get a chance to try it yet? He suggested:
************ Do a 180: let H pursue.... Do a 180: When H calls, let him leave a voice mail. You can listen to it and have more time to think about an appropriate response.
Do a 180 and learn to text. It is really easy. Do a 180 and text him your respose.
Do a 180: Text him and ask for D to call you when you want to talk to her.
