As I told H, I might take myself out to lunch and I might even go out for a while Saturday night. (H was concerned about the going-out-by-myself part. ) I told him that maybe his going away for a few days is a good thing because it will give me an opportunity to get out amongst other people and prove to myself that - yes, I can be fun to be around. (Sunday morning H said something hurtful to me about not being able to enjoy himself while partying when I'm around.)
I also brought up the idea that perhaps some weekend he could stay home and I'd go out-of-town for a little R&R. H became a wee bit pensive over the idea, but continued to be be sweet and supportive.
You see, he has all sorts of trips lined up for himself, mostly work related, but he also has a week's vacation to Alaska set up just for himself coming this June. He made this arrangement shortly after he dropped the bomb. So naturally, I was not consulted about this, just informed after the fact. I've not held this against him because of the circumstances under which we were operating at that time.
However, I do believe that he needs to be a little more sensitive to my being left out and alone so much. I think he's getting there on his own, but I think it's healthy for him (for us) to see movement on my part toward a little more freedom and independence for me.
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