Thanks so much for the reply. Not really religious in the sense of belonging to a church, but I do work at one and pray all the time. I have prayed for help for him, so maybe in a way it's working since it seems he is drinking more and seems very lost--close to rock-bottom.
If I feel I can't treat him with kindness then I don't answer the phone, but that hasn't happened lately. All I really feel is compassion for him. I can hear in his voice how miserable and mixed up he feels. We were married for almost 17 years, so I know him very well.
In my heart I know what you said is true. I told him last night that if he needed any help, I would help him. And I think he knows that and it's one of the reasons he reaches out to me. But, until he is ready to accept help or want help, there isn't much else I can do. It's just that we have a 16 year old son who has been hurt by of all this and I don't want anything to happen to XH for our son's sake. So, I just wondered if there was anything I could do that perhaps I hadn't thought of.
Thanks again for helping me. I really appreciate it.
