Finding DB late in the game #4

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I agree that we are making strides and I think that back in January 95% of him was gone and 5% was for the kids and I was nowhere in that equation.

I am definitely getting to be more natural with the DBing and fitting it to me/my situation. Last night was a big deal, it was the first time the two of us went out alone socially since December. Not only that, it was his idea AND he followed up on it. He apparently didn't just say it to pacify me, which is a very good thing and a nice change for him. Being me, I had to see if he wanted to do it again. But DBing, I did so in a non-aggressive manner and showed him that I was thinking about him and letting him decide the course. His b-day is next week. I asked him if he wanted to do something together or as a family. He replied, "as a family" tacking on that he'll be out of town and would like to spend time with the kids. All good for me.

Now I just have to figure out something cool to do. One of our topics last night was how neither of us put too much into celebrations. Not that everything has to be a big party, but that we were both very lax with it. He said he was going to do something cool for me for Mother's Day and I said I would for his birthday.

I'm thinking of planning a whole day of things to do. H is an active guy and likes to run around. Given his stress level recently, I might focus it on that. Thinking of starting with a morning yoga class, then sending him off for a massage, then something, ending with the dinner that he requested I make.