I don't have to work today, and h is at school, so I got to come on the boards...How are you doing???? I see you haven't posted here for a few days...I really would love to get caught up on your stich...
I'm doing pretty good. W has been a little bit down lately - job stress, which I think is bringing back some subtle hints of her ol' MLC thoughts. However, I am not letting that get to me in the least. If anything, I am just cranking up my PMA in response and hoping that helps her snap out of it.
Trying to do some more GALing ATM, have let that slip a little. Went out for dinner last night with an old guy friend, had fun catching up.
Then, we were contemplating going to a "practice dance" with some of the folks in the dancing community that teaches the lessons we go to on Tuesdays. W had a big presentation to make at work today, so she begged off. However, she and her GF that goes to the lessons with us both told me I should go - so I did. A little nervous, felt a bit like the old me that wouldn't have gone without W - then I clued into how that was working in my head and shook it off and went. Had a good time - I think I am (verrrrry slooooowly) getting the hang of this stuff!
Getting fired up for Vegas - just over a week to go!
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
Hi gang, Back from Vegas, time for a quick update!
Had a very fun, very exhausting trip. Did lots of fun stuff (including ML, yea!) The two shows that we saw - Cirque's LOVE and the Rat Pack impersonators - were both great fun, kind of a look at "Vegas Present" and "Vegas Past".
Got some nice validation from W, that I had done a good job of planning the trip. Now, the trick is to not let this behavior be limited to Big Grandiose Gestures (although those are good too) - but to take more initiative and show more Decisive, Attractive, Manly Leadership Qualities in routine day-to-day living as well. (Still enjoying the daily Make Her Happy emails - can ya tell? )
And so, the Life Lessons continue!
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
Yay! Glad your trip was wonderful and that W appreciated it.
BTW, I totally agree about not limiting things to gradiose gestures. Bring a flower home, plan a night out, make dinner...these are good things that can even be done spur of the moment.
You are amazing!
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
Now, the trick is to not let this behavior be limited to Big Grandiose Gestures (although those are good too) - but to take more initiative and show more Decisive, Attractive, Manly Leadership Qualities in routine day-to-day living as well.
Very good point, Rob. One thing which annoys me about my H is when he makes an effort for a while then it tails off. He's learning that it's the little things which make a difference and I'm learning to speak up and ask nicely for the little things.
Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05 Seperated Sept/Oct 05 Oct 06 - H recomitted July 11 - I am now a WAW.
Just because you mentioned it, Rob...I am another one who really enjoys the Making Her Happy emails every day.
David Cunningham sounds like a bit of an arse, but his advice is pretty good.
My W just finished reading Why Men Love Bitches, sounds like it's the exact same thing, only for women. Men don't actually "love bitches"; all it means is that men are more likely to stick with a woman who is confident and stands up for herself, ie: not a doormat.
She said it was a good book, and she got some good ideas out of it.
"That's great, honey!" I said. *Gulp!*
Me: 54 Her: 50 and sexy as hell M: 32yrs T: 34yrs Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection" Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire" She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08! Everything's GREAT!
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