BFM, thanks for posting me. I didn't want to take up someone else's thread.
See, I'm learning from being here because I pretty much had all your suggestions in my head already.
H did email me more about the retreat and before getting your post, I emailed him back telling him I was happy he went and respected him greatly for trying it out. He hasn't replied but I hope it made him feel good because it's true and came from the heart. In his email before I sent it though, he said it's amazing how relaxed it made him and how he's still so relaxed. Good because he needed some R & R.
I haven't bad mouthed him at all. I don't think I've even done much of that here where I know no one. He's not being bad, he's just 'lost' and needs to find direction.
I have prayed for him as well as myself during all of this. I've prayed that God opens H's heart to Him and pray that He reveals to me the work I need to do on myself.
And, whenever he does nice things for D I've been acknowledging them. I know how she and I felt when he didn't come around at all and I don't want him to go back to that place for sure. It's nice to get recognized for doing things, even small things, so I've been making a point to appreciate it all.
