Remember, don't bring up anything when H comes over today to do his laundry - no R talk, no talk of "OW". Be pleasant around him. He's leaving with D for a few days - it's important to leave a positive impression so that he can focus on that during the trip and not dwell on the negatives. Hope D is feeling ok for the trip. Good luck today!
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
She's ok; a real trooper. I expect her to have a few sniffles but nothing more.
H popped in for a minute and he'll be over tonight to do laundry. I have to do some too so I suggested we wash it all together and we each fold our own. This is a huge 180 for me because I've alwsys done it by myself and never even wanted his help. I don't like the way he folds LOL!! I'll need to bite my tongue and let him fold his clothes however he wants.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Hi well, they've gone on their trip. I miss them already! This will be the longest time spent without seeing either of them in 10 years. I've either been without H or D but never both of them at the same time. The longest I've ever been without D is when H and I took a 4 day trip 3 years ago.
I asked him to go out to eat last night before they left and we did. Had a nice time. He came back and we washed all the clother together.
I was so sad that I wasn't going on the trip. H said that when D gets bigger we'll all go back to Orlando as a family. He kept telling me that we'll do it as a family. This is so hard. H seems to think that we'll always be a family but what kind of family will we be if he or I remarry? WAS don't seem to get that do they?
So now I have a whole week to myself. I have work to do but I also need to get out of the apartment so I don't miss them so much.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Hows this for a quote... "If you don't know how I feel about you after 10 years then I'm not gonna tell you"
H laid that one on me last night. Assuming he still loves me I felt like saying "well, why did leave me?". Would have been counterproductive of course.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Jen, I know how you feel. The most I've ever been away from S is 3 days and away from both of them for a couple of weekend trips. You need to keep yourself busy. Definitely do some things out of the apartment.
The conflicting messages they send!!! It's obvious he's not thinking straight but a good sign he's saying one day you'll go to Orlando as a family. Sigh!!!
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
It's hard isn't it. I'll go out in a few minutes. Have to go to the market tomorrow to pick up some fruit and veggies. Maybe get some fresh flowers for me.
Have a lot to do this week for work and I also want to clean out Ds room before she gets back. Give some toys and clothes that are too small for her to a charity.
H took almost all his clothes last night. I helped him bring it to the car. I was hoping he'd wait til he got back from the trip. I guess we'll see less of each other when he returns.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
H just sent a message that they arrived in Miami and are now leaving to drive up to Orlando. The objective of the trip was not to take D to Orlando. He has to do some banking up there and as an after thought he decided to take D. Originally he was going to go to just Miami for 4 days with his sister.
I'm sad becasue its sinking in that life is changing for us all. D is going with me in June and I know H will miss us then too. I'll also keep my expectations low at this point.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Yes Addie thats a good thing for him to have to do.
I hope he realizes tomorrow at Disney how nice it would have been for the 3 of us to have gone together. I'm not going to tell him anymore this week that I wish I could have gone. He knows.
Last night at dinner he told me he was going to begin a long distance Social Linguists program at University. He'll have to go for a month to Spain for classes in October. He said he hasn't told anyone yet and I'm the first to know. I'm happy for him and I always wanted him to go back to University. Bummer is now he wants to do it after I spent 10 years encouraging it but him never doing it. I told him since I was the first he told I get the first invite over. LOL
Last night while he was here doing his laundry he went to our friends apartment (we're neighbours) to say bye til next week. The wife asked him what he was doing and he said laundry in the apaprtment. She asked him why he wasn't doing it at his parents house. He said "its my home".
My H is a big DAM he's not in MLC but he is confused about his life.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
