I haven't been around for quite a while since I've been so busy, but I have a question that I can't seem to solve on my own.
My XH and I have been divorced for a little over a year and in my last post(many moons ago), I thought we were reconciling, but now I think you would call it reconnecting. He calls everyday, sometimes more than once, but no talks about "us" or our relationship. They are more like check-in calls to see how things are going. That is fine with me.
I haven't really figured out why he calls me daily--sometimes I answer if I'm home and other times I'm not available. I never call him back. I have no anger towards him, and do not harbor any illusions about us getting back together. He has been somewhat secretive about his life but just recently he's been more open. He has been drinking quite heavily and just called me last night to say he was sorry for being such a POS. He didn't say it sarcastically--he was very remorseful. And then just this last Friday, he had called me at 12:30 am to check on me as I was coming home from work because it was snowing. He sounded drunk and told me he was.
I do not know if he is reaching out for help or something else. I asked him if there was anything I could do to help him and he said no. Is there anything I can do? His phone calls don't send me spinning. I have continued with my life and have forgiven him and myself and am at peace with how things are. I don't know if there is anything I can say to him to help him or do I just let him figure this out.
I told him I loved him when we said goodbye. I haven't said this to him in 8 months. He kind of groaned and said, "I know" and I could hear the guilt in his voice. I didn't say it for any other reason than just to let him know that I did. I wasn't expecting him to say it back and it didn't bother me at all that he didn't. The wierd thing is is that I know he does, he just can't tell me and I know he doesn't feel worthy of my love.
I could go on and on, but I'll spare you all. I really just want other's opinions--is there anything I can do to help him?
