I had a look at that site, and found to my surprise that this board is apparently a hot bed of controversy. I may stop in there every once in a while - the Marriage Builders site looked good - but I am also having 'I'm doing all that already and things are just getting worse!' reaction. I would love to ask my H to read the basic marriage builders concepts, but I know he would just interpret it as pressure. It describes so clearly where he is right now, while pointing out that it is in his power to change his feelings, if he's only willing to put in a little effort, which apparently he's not.
I need to work out a way to communicate this to him, my frustration at his passivity and the fact that he seems to be waiting for his feelings to change all by themselves - he's letting himself be ruled by his emotions (or lack of) in this case, rather than taking the lead.
