I think you are right (as usual) \:\) GF!!! Thanks for the hugs too! \:\) I had a bad day avoiding the fights he started Sat. but then I rallied and successfully avoided them yesterday and so far today. He emailed me something today about he finds it very ironic I want to stay in my small town "when I found it so horrible for the last 3 years".

I emailed back: Not at all!!! I was depressed & unhappy and I think would have been anywhere I lived (our small town), or (the town he lives in now), or even Hawaii (ok maybe not Hawaii!). I would look to you to get a new job or getting a new house somewhere else and think that would make me happy (and you had told me that wouldn't help me & you were right), but I really had to just make MYSELF happy and get rid of the depression. I don't have to get a house to make me happy or whatever, I'm just happy. I don't know if I explain it well...

I've told him that once or twice before but I guess it takes a while to sink in or maybe for him to believe it or understand me or something! \:\) He emailed back that he thought I did do a good job of explaining it. \:\)

Neecy, you have a great memory! I did post that on someone's thread; I use the Motivated Moms chore lists. Here's the link: http://www.motivatedmoms.com/order.html But I think you might want to try the free 2002 ebook (the link for that is on the bottom of the page) and it will give you an idea if that will work for you. It has improved my house so much I can actually people over without notice which I never could have done before!!! \:\) They also have an email list which you can sign up for on yahoo groups. They basically send out the same info as the ebook so each day you get one email with daily chores and another with your weekly/monthly/season chores that you also are supposed to try to do at: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/MotivatedMom/cal If you miss a day for whatever reason, you are supposed to just do the next day's chore list or emails and not try to make up the previous day's chores, plus I have my kids do some of the chores so it doesn't take me that long.

Hope that helps you (like it has me)! \:\) Karen

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