All best to you. I'm not familiar with your sitch. But I see that you moved into a new M VERY quickly. I remarried 3 years after the bomb.
We are very happy, we did a lot of healing before our M, we worked out a lot of old issues before the M. My life with H is amazing and I realize over and over again how empty my XM was. Yet we are still both very aware that old issues don't go away. They have to be worked out with your new partner.
You and W will have a lot to work on together — you were perhaps both still reeling when you got M by whatever got you to that point. But work on it together you can. It is much better if you can expect it and acknowledge it.
Congratulations on your happiness. Keep it going by staying open and compassionate and detached. If you understand why that is the key to intimacy, then you are on your way. If you don't, then it is something to explore, perhaps, if you start to have problems.
BTW, MA StateFlower's post seems well-timed for you.
