Better late than never?

[MichelleLT]

I'm saying that showing her you have changed is okay. But that you need to expect her anger. Her thought is that you didn't listen to her before and she is frustrated that you let things get this bad before you agreed to change. It feels like too little too late to her. Plus she doesn't trust that the changes will stick.

So, empathize with it. Even apologize to not listening to her sooner if you feel like that might help. (But do not initiate a R conversation.) Tell her you want her to be happy. Be her friend.

Time will be the biggest help. As your ACTIONS tell her you have changed, she will work through her emotions. As always, patience.