To Hope or Not to Hope?

[MichelleLT]

Totally understandable.

I am also not proud of how I acted when I found out about my H's affairs. I said and did very mean things.

And he is angry and resents me for it.

But my question is always, why can you be mad at me for how I acted, but I can't be mad at you for hurting me??? It's not fair.

But then, life isn't always fair.

re your future expectations. It's good to have low expectations, you need to notice the small positives (don't expect them, but note them and appreciate them and reward him for them if you can). But don't give up hope of having a happy M either. I know it's hard to see it now, but it is possible, it does happen. And if you set your ultimate goal too low, you will never surpass it.