Winner At A Losing Game

[karen43]

But it is painfully clear she fully intends to maintain this active hostility against me, forever if she can. She won't so much as open the door even a peep. I could cure cancer and become humanitarian of the year but she will always refuse to see me for who I really am and will not acknowledge my changes.

I consider that to be her loss. (It's just too bad for my S's they too suffer this loss as a result of her self-induced blindness.)

I think she does see your changes most likely but it doesn't matter because this is all about her. You know I went through a guilty period where I felt a lot of the problems were my fault. But then I realized I've made all the changes H wanted plus more, H acknowledges the changes, but he still is with the OW and not interested in the marriage. He's gone b/c he wanted to lead a single life, have a girlfriend, less responsibilities, mid-life crisis and whatever.

I do think it is their loss b/c we are such wonderful people and eventually they will probably realize they are making a big mistake but we might not care by then!!! Karen