TREE- about to be separated-Kids

[jon2911]

BT, you wrote "I really want her to be happy". Well, you can't make her happy, you couldn't do it as her H and you won't be able to do it as her XH.

Whoa, wait a minute! She isn't his Ex yet. These things take a long, long time. My wife filed in August, it's still not finalized. Thankfully our WAW's can't get what they want immediately. Usually 4-5 months at the earliest.

Tree, this separation may be good, but make sure you're DB'ing, and don't think of her as your Ex yet. That just plays into the "crazy Sally" idea. There's a big difference between detaching and giving up, and your sitch is nowhere near hopeless yet. Hang in there dude, you're doing great.

Tree, I'm a little worried that your threads have a whole lot of info about how crazy your W is (which seems to be true), but not much about the changes you're making in yourself. That might be what MIL was trying to say, even though she was drunk and put it completely the wrong way. Just my .02.