I think it's supposed to take one month for every year of marriage to fix the marriage. I've heard that the recovery of a relationship is actually half the amount of time as you were together, which gives you 12.5 years to recover.

You're well on your way. The baby news must be upsetting, not that you want it to be you, but it's really hard to realise someone is not who you thought they were.

As far as thinking about him everyday. Don't indulge, if you start thinking, maybe just turn your mind to something else. Reflection for healing is good, too, but I have found that if I don't indulge myself everytime that It's easier to eralize that they are just thoughts, tape running through my head, and I can stop them if I want.

;\) Congratulations on all the great things you've brought into your life!