I think that what will stabilize her is the realization that I have made significant changes, and she believes that they are permanent. She told me that last night.
I told her that all I ask is three things: 1. that we communicate constantly 2. that we give it time...Rome wasn't built in a day 3. that she commits to working as hard as me on our marriage
This should prevent or minimize any meltdowns or weirdness. However...one day at a time is the key concept here. And we are both aware of that.
