nobody "forgets". And I am not sure it would be wise to forget. I have been thinking the same thing again today. But, forgive is another story. And if you could forgive her that's all it would take to "fix" things when the time comes.
Lies, indifference, selfishness, ego, are common with all our spouses. Except in some stories where some people were "nut cases", perfectly normal spouses turned into alliens. Your W is not different. You read around here, you have read stories, unfortunately your wife is no different. That's what bothered me the most, the fine exemplar of a H proved to be a common weak man. Same with you. It's a big blow. But we are common, weak spouses as well. We are now barely becoming better people through patience, committement to our Ms, and hopefully when we will learn how to forgive them when they will ask for it.
You can't forgive her now, you can't undestand her, don't try. Being mad and hurt is all you can feel. Just accept it and do your own thing. Say, "this is how it is going to be for now. I should not expect her to be the person I thought she was, I should expect her to be the "worst person" she can be". Your life and your morals and your attitude towards life and family are not characterised by her and "you stand tall". You are not a couple anymore, you are not "one". Leave your heart open for a while longer, there is a big turn coming up for you soon, wait to see what it will bring. K
