A few months is very little time. If your marriage was relatively good prior to all this, I suggest you leave the door open just a crack to the POSSIBILITY of reconciliation. I think you should live for youself and the children, and continue to believe in it being over for now, but I don't think you should entirely discount and close yourself off to a possiblie reconciliation in the future (not that you should ever say this to your W, just something you hold inside yourself....) Time can change so many things, and sometimes people have to separate and go through pain and growth. And maybe a future reconciliation will never occur.... but if a time comes when you can start off as friends, then just be friends and see where it goes...

Definitely move on and let go of your W as someone in your life.... but don't close yourself off to possiblity in the future. Actually, being a committed DBer is to move on with your life. You are basically going in the right direction....

Let go of her entirely for now. Focus on you and your kids. At this time it should be like she no longer exits in your lives.

>>If it were just the two of us, it would be very different and I would probably much more of a committed DB'r. You must understand, she did not just WAW from me, she WAW'd from her children and her entire life. I do believe my situation is probably quite unique to this board.<<

Actually it's for the children's sake that you should keep a future possiblity open.

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.