Bringing our boat to the broker's to be sold, on a gorgeous warm sunny day, brought back a flood of emotions for her. We had so many good times with our kids on the water, and later on, just the two of us.
Then, at the end of the day when she went home, she opened up a new magazine, and it was a 2-page spread with vineyards and ocean pictures. Before we split, we had talked a lot about the next phase of our life now that the kids had moved out, and wine touring and vacationing by the sea were on the "must-do" list.
She said she stared at the pictures, and suddenly said to herself, "What am I doing?" It was a defining moment for her, and her thoughts shifted, and she started to see the whole situation in a different light.
My W had a similar moment like this. Back in January, she was packing up the Christmas ornaments and really reflected on what she would be losing. She couldn't imagine needing to go through all of the ornaments with many of them having a special significance and trying to divide them. She invited me out to dinner that night and that was the beginning of things getting really good. Things were really great for a couple of months, but then she starting slipping back to uncertainty. So I won't caution you again, but I will say that this good turn in your situation does give me hope for how things can work out for the better.
