Oh yes, I'd say a lot of us suffer from either PTSD symptoms or at the very least Acute Stress symptoms. Mine included (very rarely now) the "flash backs" I've mentioned...intense visual images of H and OW together, or him writing to her, sending packages, buying his plane tickets...along with a full body spasm...YUP.
Not to mention appetite changes (I lost weight in the beginning), sleep changes, mood swings...I'm VERY grateful that I saw my MD and got some meds within DAYS of bomb #1. It was a long time coming for me, but I have no regrets.
Oh yes and about the "details". Tal, I'm just someone who's gotta know. CJ offered and I took him up on it. Now this didn't happen in one big BLAHHGGGHHH!
Rather, CJ let me know that I could ask for details, and after our initial discussion, more questions did come up (I'd say about 80% of the ones asked so far were asked within the first month or so...depending on which "bomb" ).
CJ hated it, must have made him feel like absolute sh!t, some of those times...recanting his sins. Mostly I was calm or crying, just wanting to know. I tried to make it as safe for him to tell me as I could, (no rage), while still allowing my emotions to speak...I cry easily.
Take in as much as you can handle and no more. If sexual details will drive you crazy, don't ask. I've asked some, but not all. CJ did have HIV/STD tests. (Not happy about it, but who would be?).
Personally, I'm glad CJ was forthcoming. Now just for an added twist...I don't have a whole lot of info on A#1...for some reason the details there just didn't seem as important...I've even forgotten her name on occasion! I think that's a good thing?
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