I'm not sure what you should do on trying to contact H. How would YOU react to his actions or lack of. If he doesn't respond, how will you feel? if he does respond or is still distant, how will you feel?
I think if you are up to disappointment, and you won't let it affect you, then I think sending him a fathers day card would be okay. even though he's not an active father, but really, we can't assume the reason WHY he's not being active. I have no idea about your sitch, but what I have learned is that we all can assume and we can all think we know for sure what our S is thinking or why he's acting as he/she is, but we really don't. He could feel pushed out, or he could not care, or maybe he's scared and has already screwed up and thinks your D may be better off w/o him. who knows.
but I think sending him a card that doesn't show expectations of getting anything back, like you asking him to call, or whatever, and just a card that just says you and your d is thinking about him would be good. IMHO
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
