start small. E.i: I just HAD to look inside stbx's car (from the window of course) and try to spot stuff, to see what he was up to, ow's stuff? (he comes to the house to watch kids 2-3x a week til I get there) It was just ridiculous! So I decided one day "dont' look, I dare you to walk past his car and not look inside. It was very hard! but I did it, and each time I tried hard, sometimes I'd take a quick peak, but only if it was on the driveway smack by the steps of the house.
Little by little I tried not to check on him nor ask him questions which would eventually let me know if he was by ow's or not. The urges are almost gone, I dont' obsess about "what/where/when" barely, still think of that, but far in between.
It takes a lot of work hon, you can make it!
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
