No R Talks??????

[sage]

Does anyone ever wonder sometimes if they even want to save their M or if it is worth the work?

Yup.

For me, it generally happens after a particular incident occurs -- like, I hit a wall of insecurity and anxiety and think "wouldn't this be easier/better with someone else?" (then I remind myself this is the WAS mentality -- BUT then I say -- OK, but wouldn't it be better if only for a LITTLE while? BUT, isn't THAT the mentality that our spouses had? I'll dally a bit and feel wonderful about myself and ....)

Sometimes it happens when I just feel tired as hell. Like I've been working my A$$ off for what?

And sometimes it happens when I'm with people who seem to have what I want -- my sister and her BF and 9 month old. My extended family and their new babies. Sometimes even on this BB when I read of a communication breakthru for someone else.

I see a lot of work on your part. And some on h's part too?

In another post you mention starting again with a beginner's mind -- FUNNY -- that's gonna be the gist of my new thread...started re-reading DR and made a list of things messing with my beginner's mind.

Sage