First, thanks for your post to me about your educational past and upbringing...ever think of writing stories? A novel? (I AM a wannabe writer)

Second...wow some latent anger coming out...take a breath...don't panic...I think MOST of us (ALL?) have felt that way. We get to that fragile, strange point where we feel like MAYBE we can breathe again. They've recommitted, they want US . We've "won"....But WHAT have we won ?

Someone who is still confused, someone who has yet to really DEAL with the full impact of what they've done, someone who is finally getting help to figure out what some of his issues are (CJ had some sessions too), someone who IS STILL NOT GETTING that they should be, as my mother so nicely put it, "on their hands and knees kissing your feet for putting up with it all!"

Tal, it does take time. What it sounds like you're worried about is that maybe some of YOUR issues might not get fully addressed. You sound rightfully pissed that you've been doing ALL this work for so long, here he is just "starting" (and focussing on himself too boot) and you're supposed to cheer him on.

Well, you know, at the time when I felt this with CJ, I did listen to what he was dealing with. Some of it, I didn't agree with, but I listened and I did encourage him.

But I FELT like you do some of the time. Tired and a little resentful! But It HAS come around to where it's a much more equitable sharing and hopefully, hearing.

So don't let it get you down...we all had/have those thoughts!

Shiny