To agree to a D or not..... that is the question

[cat03]

sweets)))))))))))))))) hon, we all know how you are hurting, and that's why we are able to tell you that DB was to save yourself first, someone in the S forum posted that having your S back should be the icing on the cake, not the cake itself, you are the cake my dear friend.
I'm the path to D myself, and I have become, by God's grace, 10x a better woman than when I first posted on these boards, I've found myself and my worth on my very own without the man that used to be my H.

My dad sold all we had and brought my brother and me to this country 17yrs ago with nothing other than our clothes and 200$, he was in his late 50s, starting over again in a strange land, leaving his aging mom and all he knew, just for us, so his children could do better. My teenage brother resented him for years, things were a bit tough for him, him transitioning from boy to man didn't see the sacrifice my dad made. He had many angry arguments with my dad about "why did you bring me here? I didn't ask you to" and the worst "I didn't ask to be born, you brought me into this world". Words that hurt my father horribly. 17yrs later my brother has a great job, just put an addition to his home and wouldn't go back to my country if they paid him.
Sometimes we have to make decisions that hurt us for the good of our children, and even then, we get grief from them. We can't control what happens to us, we can only control our minds, the rest is in God's hands. You made the decision to let your son go to his dad's, for his own good, asking your son if he wanted to be back was just punishment for you hon, he had already made peace with the fact he was moving out.

I will keep you in my prayers and pray for peace, that regardless what happens with s15, your other dds, ANYthing, that you remain a rock, steady and strong despite the worst of the storms. If leaving here accomplishes that, so be it, but dont' leave because things didnt go your way, leave because the DB boards have accomplished its task of creating a new confident ACJ.
With love, cat03.