Minkerman: W asked if she could come home

[minkerman]

Thanks Treeman. I will keep posting here, then if things are looking good, move over to piecing.

I hope that what I post here, good and bad, helps someone in their journey. It certainly has BEEN a journey for both of us - I have changed and grown quite a bit over the past few months, and so has my wife.

It's interesting how in the DR book, Michele says one of 3 things will happen when you DB consistently.
1. Nothing changes, her mind is made up and she is moving on.
2. She starts to slowly show signs of coming around.
3. She has an immediate change of heart.

My wife told me it was Number 3.

Bringing our boat to the broker's to be sold, on a gorgeous warm sunny day, brought back a flood of emotions for her. We had so many good times with our kids on the water, and later on, just the two of us.

Then, at the end of the day when she went home, she opened up a new magazine, and it was a 2-page spread with vineyards and ocean pictures. Before we split, we had talked a lot about the next phase of our life now that the kids had moved out, and wine touring and vacationing by the sea were on the "must-do" list.

She said she stared at the pictures, and suddenly said to herself, "What am I doing?" It was a defining moment for her, and her thoughts shifted, and she started to see the whole situation in a different light.

A couple hours later, she called me and asked if she could come home.

That's it, in a nutshell. We know it's not going to be perfect, and we expect a few bumps along the way. But she says the feelings are coming back, she has told me she loves me at least 10 times in the past 24 hours, she is full of hugs and touches, and she is nervous as hell!

I'm confident and happy that we can make this happen, and as we drove to work together, she said the key will be not to try too hard, and not to do too much all at once.

So there you have it!