BT, you wrote "I really want her to be happy". Well, you can't make her happy, you couldn't do it as her H and you won't be able to do it as her XH. Unhappy people will continue to be unhappy people, even when they blame their unhappiness on us! Separation will not bring her happiness. Your job is to create a sitch that allows for healthy parenting on both your parts. That means being co-operative with her for the the kids sake. But, do not make this too easy for her either, this is a messy and sad business and her happiness is NOT your responsibility.
