*robotic* animals... that explains it!!! I was wondering how it would work with wild animals...like, elephant poop would make it very "realistic", but maybe not add to the DINING experience!!!! And I was like... wow... that restaurant must have some serious overhead!!
Hey W2G.. thats amazing !! An R talk and what an incredible one at that! So he is acknowledging that the problem lies with him and not you, or anything you've done, in fact, you are the best thing that ever happened to him? It must have been lovely to hear that and know that he still loves you, he is just striggling with the commitment side of things? I guess yuo are on the right track, being happy and centred in yourslef and you certainly do sound it on your thread! You are keeping your cool and keeping on and seems like you are doing what works?
Ali xxx _______________ Me: 37 BF: 34 T: 9 years IDLYA: 2 Nov 07 Own flat: 26 Jan 08 Depression confirmed: 4 Mar backing off?
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Sorry I haven't been around much lately... suffering with more of the blues I'm afraid and just didn't feel like posting it and bringing others down with me. Still not feeling overly happy.. but at least I'm not super sad today.
So yesterday was my 6 year anniversary.. H came over and spent the day with D2 and I.. we had a nice day together but it didn't feel like an anniversary. We had some of his family call and wish us a Happy Anniversary and Happy Easter (they are Greek Orthodox).. I got him a card.. it wasn't a Happy Anniversary card because that would just be a lie.. we are not happily married right now. So I got him a thank you card. Thanking him for the time we have had together. He did not get me a card or anything.
Anyway, that's about it. His mouth/jaw is healing nicely.. his swelling is nearly gone.. he's started gaining a bit of weight back now that he's able to introduce more soft food into his diet.. so he seems to be doing well.
Says that a big part of him wants to move home.. which he also said is an improvement from before where the thought never really occurred to him at all.. but he doesn't trust that he is ready. Worries that he may need to leave again. He said all he knows is that we are "connected" and that he wants D2 and I near him always.. but maybe not residing under the same roof it seems. Only time will answer that one!
Take care, W2G
PS.. still no results for my Mom.. and she said she had heaviness in her chest again last week.. I really hope she finds out something soon.
What is the definition of a pity party?.. hmm hmm..
When you don't share what's going on cuz you don't want to bring others down.
Hello.. we're already down! We've been kicked in the teeth, ribs, heart.. but we're all here.. for you, for me, for anyone who needs it!
There was a time when I didn't post because it hurt too much, I felt so hopeless, I had nothing to say, didn't know what to say. Being honest with yourself is the best thing going.
It must be hard to have so many positive interactions with your spouse, hear all the "Way to go's" and still feel like it's not enough. Me.. I don't even get crumbs anymore from "Kevin".. maybe just his farts in my general direction. It is beyond my imagination to have any of the time you spend with your husband.
So he's a big weenie and doesn't know what he wants. So he's feeling lots of pain, confusion, indecision for what he's done and what's most important to him. You're a brilliant, warm, loving mother, wife and woman and you're giving him time.
Just know that you are a radiant sunbeam in the rainbow of life, Ms. Whey.
I love the fact that Gypsy called your husband a weenie. Perfect. He kind of is being a weenie. However, I wouldn't give up hope yet. He clearly still loves you. He just needs to figure out he is being a weenie and wake up.
I am sorry you've been down. It seems to be hitting a number of us lately. We are here for you if needed. Come down here and let's go for a ride. Blue skies, sunshine and the open road. I have to bike all ready to go.
It is good that he admitted he has been thinking about coming home, that he feels connected to you. And that he says that is a change, that before he didn't feel that way. I think that says a lot, that his feelings are changing and he is admitting that to you.
Yes, seems very much a matter of time and patience in your case W2G. He is communcating with you, where hes at at each stage, as it changes, which is massive! At least you are getting to hear the inner workings of his mind (and alot of us here arent). He says positive things to you about loving you, wanting you both near him etc. It must be so hard as he is dangling himself so tantalisingly near you... does he step nearer to you when you are busy and a little unavailable? Just curious. Doesnt sound like theres much you can do but carry on being your loving, attractive self and wait for him to work through his issues (is he freaked out at the commitment, responsibility of being a Dad?)
Sorry you have been a bit down, we all had a wierd ride on the rollercoaster these past few days I think!
Ali xxx __________________ Me: 37 BF: 34 T: 9 years IDLYA: 2 Nov 07 Own flat: 26 Jan 08 Depression confirmed: 4 Mar
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
You still having a down week? Hope your doing ok, Ali xxx ________________ Me: 37 BF: 34 T: 9 years IDLYA: 2 Nov 07 Own flat: 26 Jan 08 Depression confirmed: 4 Mar NFC!
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
